Finishing touches

The last two entries on the Laundry List are:

• Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics [co-dependents] and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
• Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors

I didn't respond to them in my post about Dirty Laundry because I was tired and was having trouble wrapping my head around what they meant and thus whether they applied. Well, I have had some sleep since then (at Kathy's insistence) and I can finally address these.

In looking at the first one, to me this is kind of self-evident.  We would not be in the program if we did not start acting like one.  I have mentioned previous the relationship addiction and the addict like behavior I had concerning it, the evasion, the craving, etc.  So this one too applies.

And the last one took a while to sink in, but it applies to me too.  I am a behind the scenes kind of guy.  I tend to keep balls rolling once they start, but rarely am I the guy to get things started, to make things happen.  Of course, with the assumptions I have been operating under about being able to get what I want, this is to be expected.

I have since moved onto Step 5 and Step 6 is upcoming, but I like to finish what I start and so I figured I would finish these.

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