Sunday, March 18, 2012

Where is the love?

Kathy and I saw the movie "The Vow" tonight and it was rather well done but a rather hard movie for me, much to her surprise. If you have not yet seen the movie, I suggest you come back tomorrow and read the next day's blog. Remember, you have been warned.













As we go through the movie it was abundantly clear that while Channing Tatum still loved Rachel McAdams, she, due to her accident, did not love him. And he didn't know how to get her to love him again. It was a tough watch for me, because I have been there twice.

The most recent time was the end of my marriage where it just seemed that Portia could not remember why she married me. The pain had seemingly erased her memory of the good parts of who I was. And I was as mystified as to what to do about it as Tatum was in the movie.

But the other time was the very first time, when Wilma dropped me. I didn't know where the love went or why the love went. It hurt. It still hurts a little thinking about it.

I don't know why love fades, but I am aware now that it does. It doesn't mean I have to like it though.

Roberta Flack and Donny Hathaway

1 comment:

Kenn (I'm with the Banned) said...

Love is funny. It really has two opposites. And those two opposites are quite different. One is hatred; the other is indifference.

Indifference is the result of the intensity of the positive feelings being turned down to zero.

Hatred is when the intensity remains at the same high level, but the positive turns to negative.

In context, I think Wilma lost the intensity; I'm almost certain Portia reversed the polarity. When love turns into indifference or hatred, either way it'll hurt. But it's not the same thing. And while I certainly don't know the solutions, I'm pretty well certain that there needs to be more than one.