Friday, March 16, 2012

It's a sad, sad situation

Well, I may have possibly ruined my relationship with Kathy. I hope not, but I can never tell about these things. And how I did it is that I got divorced.

As I mentioned previously, my agreement to divorce my ex-wife came unraveled. So I retained a lawyer. A strategy that was considered and ultimately decided upon was to use the rules and laws of the state to get divorced without the ex's cooperation.

Successful execution of this strategy required that the ex not know this was what we were going to do. However, Kathy and Portia had actually started to talk frequently. I didn't want to run the risk of Portia getting wind of the strategy. So I didn't tell her.

I wanted to tell her. I really did. But I wanted to be divorced from Portia even more and I wasn't sure that was going to happen if she (Portia) had gotten a whiff of the maneuver.

So it happened. And tonight I told her. And I didn't tell her the way that I wanted to. I told her while being aggravated because Portia was again telling mis-truths to people about me (not Kathy in this instance).

Kathy was hurt. We talked about it. I explained things. She says we are okay. I want to believe her, but my ACoA issues get in the way of that. I have told her I am sorry and hopefully that is enough. But sorry seems to be the hardest word.

Elton John


Kenn (I'm with the Banned) said...

Now I kind of feel guilty, as I supported your plan to be rid of Portia, or at the very least didn't try to talk you out of it.

Though I still say, you did try to be nice about it and were assaulted for it. And you can still be nice about it if you want... but now it's only up to you, and not Big Brother.

I'm a little worried though, given your social life, who Portia could lie ("Tell mis-truths"? Really?) about you to, if not Kathy, and I don't like the answer I'm getting.

Lightning Man said...

It was to Tina's teacher.